1. Focus on people’s good points.
   Tell all with whom you come into contact the good things you see in them.
   
2. Develop a positive approach toward life.
   Compliment more than you criticize.
   
3. Build a climate of trust and support in all your relationships.
   Cooperate with others instead of competing with them.
   
4. Use gentle, loving, respectful language dealing with others.
   They won’t hear your words if they’re too busy dodging your sharp tongue.
   
5. Take a genuine interest in the work and activities of others.
   Make a point to ask about new projects.
   
6. Listen patiently, with your heart, when others are talking.
   It’s Christlike to put aside one’s own interests for the love of another.
   
7. Learn how to refuse with a smile.
   If you have to say "no" to something, do it respectfully.
   
8. Put the devil of jealousy far behind you.
   Deal with your personal insecurities in some other ways, but don’t put others down to make yourself look better.
   
9. Be loyal.
   Never allow yourself to tear down the kingdom of God by destructive, behind-the-back criticism of others.
   
10. Do extra little things that are nobody’s job.
    Be generous by volunteering—especially for the jobs for which there is no great reward.*
    Putting these all together is another way of being an instrument of peace in the manner of St. Francis of Assisi.

Let us learn to tame too what is wild and violent within ourselves and the world around us.